Everyone you meet in your life, 99% are strangers. So relax, you don't have that many spectators.
Ignore prejudices, stay away from biases. For those who hold biases against you, no matter what you do or say, they will oppose you. To avoid these troubles, not explaining or arguing is the best way to fight back. In small groups, neutral relationships are the safest. Don't rush to pick sides, be kind to everyone or be mean to everyone. Because small groups formed with the purpose of isolation will inevitably split again for the same reason. Today you support him in isolating others, tomorrow he might team up with others to start isolating you—that's human nature. Never deceive yourself. Deceiving yourself is much easier than deceiving others, but waking yourself up is much harder than waking others. The most cost-effective business is investing in yourself. Smart people spend money to improve, fools only spend money to enjoy, sitting and eating up their savings. Making money is the most effective way to protect yourself and those around you. People with high emotional intelligence never deliberately try to please others, but always please themselves. Never deceive yourself. Deceiving yourself is much easier than deceiving others, but waking yourself up is much harder than waking others. Stay committed to lifelong learning and never stand still. When the times abandon you, they won't say goodbye. Not progressing is the biggest regression. You run with all your might not to change the world, but to avoid being abandoned by it. Never look down on anyone; many people in slippers might be millionaires. Always keep 30% of mystery for yourself. Only then will others see the unexpected you, and you can always bring freshness to others. This rule applies to all interpersonal relationships. The most painful people are often the clearest. Being ruthless is necessary to succeed; many successful people have strong aura not just because they are rich, but because of that fierce determination. If you can't wait for an opportunity, find one; if you can't find one, create it yourself. Focus on one field and work hard; once you understand it thoroughly, success will come naturally. The biggest taboo in doing things is being afraid of trouble; if you're afraid of trouble, nothing will get done. Plan ahead before doing anything; plan people before planning things. Many people don't know the shortcut, but isn't planning people just to take shortcuts? Ordinary people without background or resources,坚持做一件事 can surpass 90% of their peers. Men, only after being severely looked down upon by women once, will start thinking of ways to improve themselves. Those who hurt you are also your benefactors. Even if you lack confidence, pretend to be confident. People who lack confidence don't seem capable of handling things, so how can others trust you with responsibilities? The first step to confidence: work on your personal image. You don't know how smooth it is to be well-dressed. The cost of strength is: enjoying solitude, facing loneliness, and being harshly rubbed by reality. Action is the best way to enhance your personal charm. It may not show in a few days, but after years, your positive influence will spread, and many will be willing to work with you. Listen to words backwards; when others praise you, think about their motives. Why are they praising you? What do you have that’s worth praising? One of my most used tips: don't listen to what they say, think about why they say it. From this perspective, you'll find many interesting things. Tried and true! When asking for help from others, whether successful or not, at least say thank you. After all, no one is obliged to help you. Helping you is kindness; not helping is their duty. Try not to owe favors to others. Stay humble, avoid arrogance and impatience. There is always someone better; you may be excellent, but you are definitely not the best. There are four things in life you must never do: never take the easy way only; never try to change others' fate; never start out of fear of failure; never let your temper exceed your ability. Learn to say "No." Most people and things in life are unrelated to you. Boldly refuse, and spend your time on more meaningful things. Also, act a little dumb or naive sometimes, because no one likes someone too clever. Have good control over your emotions. Don't complain when facing difficulties, and don't speak recklessly when angry. Always maintain a calm mindset towards things. Difficulties have already arisen; the best strategy is only one: find a way to solve them. Never ignore someone just because they are nice to you if you dislike certain points about them. When this kindness gradually fades, those flaws will quickly lead the relationship to an end. If you're not interested, just refuse decisively. Don't let yourself stay stagnant for too long. Once you get used to comfort, you'll lose the ability to seek change. What you worry about controls you. — John Locke If you have ambition but no achievement, don't stand up easily; only endure patiently, bide your time, and success will be just a matter of time. Travel alone and outside, make sure to save money. Smart people are full of doubts; fools are unwavering. True confidence comes from fully accepting oneself. Otherwise, you'll only admire the strong and despise the weak. True ignorance is not a lack of knowledge, but refusing to acquire knowledge. — Karl Popper When it comes to life, be bold because we will always lose it. — Nietzsche
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Everyone you meet in your life, 99% are strangers. So relax, you don't have that many spectators.
Ignore prejudices, stay away from biases. For those who hold biases against you, no matter what you do or say, they will oppose you. To avoid these troubles, not explaining or arguing is the best way to fight back.
In small groups, neutral relationships are the safest. Don't rush to pick sides, be kind to everyone or be mean to everyone. Because small groups formed with the purpose of isolation will inevitably split again for the same reason.
Today you support him in isolating others, tomorrow he might team up with others to start isolating you—that's human nature.
Never deceive yourself. Deceiving yourself is much easier than deceiving others, but waking yourself up is much harder than waking others.
The most cost-effective business is investing in yourself. Smart people spend money to improve, fools only spend money to enjoy, sitting and eating up their savings.
Making money is the most effective way to protect yourself and those around you.
People with high emotional intelligence never deliberately try to please others, but always please themselves.
Never deceive yourself. Deceiving yourself is much easier than deceiving others, but waking yourself up is much harder than waking others.
Stay committed to lifelong learning and never stand still. When the times abandon you, they won't say goodbye. Not progressing is the biggest regression.
You run with all your might not to change the world, but to avoid being abandoned by it.
Never look down on anyone; many people in slippers might be millionaires.
Always keep 30% of mystery for yourself. Only then will others see the unexpected you, and you can always bring freshness to others. This rule applies to all interpersonal relationships.
The most painful people are often the clearest.
Being ruthless is necessary to succeed; many successful people have strong aura not just because they are rich, but because of that fierce determination.
If you can't wait for an opportunity, find one; if you can't find one, create it yourself.
Focus on one field and work hard; once you understand it thoroughly, success will come naturally.
The biggest taboo in doing things is being afraid of trouble; if you're afraid of trouble, nothing will get done.
Plan ahead before doing anything; plan people before planning things. Many people don't know the shortcut, but isn't planning people just to take shortcuts?
Ordinary people without background or resources,坚持做一件事 can surpass 90% of their peers.
Men, only after being severely looked down upon by women once, will start thinking of ways to improve themselves. Those who hurt you are also your benefactors.
Even if you lack confidence, pretend to be confident. People who lack confidence don't seem capable of handling things, so how can others trust you with responsibilities?
The first step to confidence: work on your personal image. You don't know how smooth it is to be well-dressed.
The cost of strength is: enjoying solitude, facing loneliness, and being harshly rubbed by reality.
Action is the best way to enhance your personal charm. It may not show in a few days, but after years, your positive influence will spread, and many will be willing to work with you.
Listen to words backwards; when others praise you, think about their motives. Why are they praising you? What do you have that’s worth praising? One of my most used tips: don't listen to what they say, think about why they say it. From this perspective, you'll find many interesting things. Tried and true!
When asking for help from others, whether successful or not, at least say thank you. After all, no one is obliged to help you. Helping you is kindness; not helping is their duty. Try not to owe favors to others.
Stay humble, avoid arrogance and impatience. There is always someone better; you may be excellent, but you are definitely not the best.
There are four things in life you must never do: never take the easy way only; never try to change others' fate; never start out of fear of failure; never let your temper exceed your ability.
Learn to say "No." Most people and things in life are unrelated to you. Boldly refuse, and spend your time on more meaningful things. Also, act a little dumb or naive sometimes, because no one likes someone too clever.
Have good control over your emotions. Don't complain when facing difficulties, and don't speak recklessly when angry. Always maintain a calm mindset towards things. Difficulties have already arisen; the best strategy is only one: find a way to solve them.
Never ignore someone just because they are nice to you if you dislike certain points about them. When this kindness gradually fades, those flaws will quickly lead the relationship to an end.
If you're not interested, just refuse decisively.
Don't let yourself stay stagnant for too long. Once you get used to comfort, you'll lose the ability to seek change.
What you worry about controls you. — John Locke
If you have ambition but no achievement, don't stand up easily; only endure patiently, bide your time, and success will be just a matter of time.
Travel alone and outside, make sure to save money.
Smart people are full of doubts; fools are unwavering.
True confidence comes from fully accepting oneself. Otherwise, you'll only admire the strong and despise the weak.
True ignorance is not a lack of knowledge, but refusing to acquire knowledge. — Karl Popper
When it comes to life, be bold because we will always lose it. — Nietzsche