Kindness alone is useless; you need to be truly outstanding. Don't value relatives too highly; family relationships are actually quite mundane.

When the mother is strong, the uncle is close; when the son is strong, the nephew is close. When the grandfather is strong, the aunt is close; when the father is strong, the uncle is close. Self-strength leads to full kinship; lack of strength means no kinship.
When you have money, even if you're stingy, someone will defend you. When you're broke, even if you give everything, it's hard to maintain relationships.